We have to talk about unpaid internships


Once upon a time, entry-level jobs were just so: entry-level. You could get a degree and pay for it within 10 years of graduating. Nowadays, you are likely to have tens of thousands in student loans, and will probably graduate into a job market that leaves you wondering how to get experience if no one will give you any. Times have changed and there's this really ugly tradition that is exacerbating the situation: the unpaid internship.

As a person who believes in the importance of creating situations where everyone wins, unpaid internships are appalling. They are inherently exploitative, they are rarely beneficial for the intern, and they stunt the talent pool for companies and entire industries. But if you've not really been a part of unpaid internship culture, or not really examined it, you might not even realize these things. If you're a kid coming up into your adulthood and preparing for your career, you might not even realize you have other options. If you're an school administrator, or an employer, you might not realize how harmful unpaid internships are to the interns and to you. So I'm breaking it down for you, (and I'm going more in depth than the original twitter thread I wrote about this).

What internships should be

The concept of an internship is not at all the problem. Internships provide a whole host of opportunities and benefits, many of which I experienced myself as an intern. Internships are an opportunity to test-drive a job and learn things outside a classroom and in the real world. They're where you can try things out that you might not be able to commit to for 1-2 years when you've graduated, but can definitely commit to for 3-6 months. You can learn about specific companies, or roles, or industries in a way you simply can't (or would have a really hard time doing) in class. Internships should be educational. They should provide you with exploratory opportunities. I've even had paid internships where the company also set up sessions and lunch and learns for all the interns to see different parts of the company and learn about different roles and facets of the industry. Internships should provide you with the opportunity to not only experiment, but to contribute something of value. You should be working, not necessarily at the level of a full-time employee, but in ways that are relevant to the career you are exploring.

That is one of the most obvious reasons why you should be paid. If you are doing the work of a paid employee-- not all of their role, but some parts of it-- you should be getting paid. In my work history, that meant doing things like data collection and entry, copy writing, deck building, and research. These were all projects that a paid person on my team would do if I didn't do them, or conceivably could be assigned to do if they had the bandwidth. Interns are supposed to help teams do a little more and in exchange get paid, just like any other worker.


The problems with not getting paid

As you can imagine, there are a ton of problems with not getting paid for your work. The most obvious and immediate being that unpaid people can't pay for things. Being alive costs money. Paying for transportation and food are critical expenses for anyone, and they don't go on hold because you've got an unpaid internship.  Some kids may find that in order to pursue their careers, they have the best opportunities in both quantity and quality in faraway cities, which could mean additional costs compared to those living at home in the form of rent and moving costs. This adds up to a lot of money that a lot of intelligent, capable young people realize they can't afford to part with. You can talk all you want about the importance of learning to "invest in yourself" but with many students taking on so much in debt to pay for their education, it's a completely rational choice to sit-out so-called unpaid internship "opportunities."

And that leads to an even bigger problem: financial and class-based barriers to opportunity. It's easy to understand why any employer would prefer to hire a recent grad with a couple relevant (or even impressive!) internships under their belt as opposed to a kid with none when they are both competing for the same entry-level role. Everyone is looking to hire the most qualified, most competent candidate. But you have to look beyond "what are people bringing to the table?" to consider "who has been uninvited from the table?" While weighing qualifications is a big portion of the talent selection process, we also have to consider what the lack of qualifications or experience really means. The easy answer is that a lack of experience means that someone is unfit or unmotivated, but the best answers are rarely the easy ones. If we consider the prevalence of unpaid internships as a whole, with them being commonplace across industries and the standard in too many, the best answer as to why a fresh young graduate might lack experience when applying for an entry-level job probably has a lot to do with the fact that they likely couldn't afford to get any. Those who have experiences that are unpaid are those who could afford not to be paid, which means you're really only giving opportunities to well-to-do kids. I don't think that students from privileged backgrounds are the only ones who bring innovation, dedication, and brilliance to the table, so why would you want to keep them out of your companies (and sometimes by extension, whole industries)? Unpaid internships do not encourage young talent to "bootstrap"-- they tell young people with nothing but brains and bootstraps that your company or industry does not value their time and effort the way a paying job at a restaurant or store does.

There are students who do whatever it takes to keep up. They'll live in an apartment with three people to a bedroom and eat peanut butter sandwiches and ramen all summer. They'll wake up an hour earlier to walk to work, not because they were able to afford living somewhere close to the office and they like a good stroll but because they couldn't afford a car to drive from their place. I'm not denying they exist. I'm just saying that it shouldn't be so hard for these people to make the decision to intern somewhere and further their career instead of staying home and helping out their parents or getting a job at the local movie theater for the summer. If a kid who is smart and creative and hard working wants to work for you and contribute to your business, why would you make waiting tables seem like a more sensible option? And what student facing loans would rather do unpaid work instead of making a dent in their debt? Who wins?

Financial barriers affect some groups more than others. Students from underprivileged backgrounds, immigrants and children of immigrants, the poor, those living outside major metropolitan areas, people of color, and women. If your industry is having issues with diversity, and is struggling to find ways to help improve the diversity of the talent pool, consider doing away with unpaid internships and advocating against them in your industry. You suddenly take away a huge disparity between the rich kid with several internships and the kid who is just as smart who couldn't afford to burn through money without making any those summers, and give them a better shot.

Legally there are also ramifications. As mentioned before, if an intern is doing real work at a company, by law they must be compensated-- you can't have it both ways where you make money (in one way or another) from their contributions without paying them. This is an easy to understand concept. In addition to that though, giving interns paid roles helps ensure certain protections for them as employees. As reported in 2015, a shocking number of states don't protect unpaid interns from discrimination or sexual harassment. If a person is not being paid, they don't technically qualify as "employees" who are covered in federal or state workplace laws. Unpaid interns often can't report things like sexual harassment because they aren't protected from retaliation.

Unpaid conditions make for an inherently exploitative relationship between the employer and the not-legally-recognized "employee." 

And before you call unpaid internships worthwhile in the long-run, consider that a 2016 study by the National Association of Colleges and Employers found that paid interns are almost 30% more likely to get an offer compared to their unpaid peers and across industries, the gap between how much paid interns are offered as starting salaries versus unpaid interns is staggering. Most surprising of all, on average, those who took unpaid internships were offered less to start than those with no internship experience whatsoever. While starting salaries are far from the be-all-end-all of one's income potential, they do set the standard against which raises are doled out, and can set a person's expectation and evaluation of what they are worth as an employee. Because of this, a large disparity in starting salary can significantly hinder someone's ability to close the gap between their salary and that of a peer who started higher up the pay scale despite having the same role.


College credit isn't really compensation

Many prospective interns are aware that some employers can't pay in money, but they can compensate in "educational credits." Educational credits, however, do not pay the bills. Moreover, college credit is a tricky thing to obtain. It requires that the employer meet the educational institution's standards to qualify as an educational experience worthy of credit. This can mean that students will have to complete additional projects as educational exercises, or that supervisors have the power to grade interns, or even, in some cases, that the institution can charge a student for those credits. That's right, it might mean that a student pays for a job. (Some of my peers did this and it absolutely boggles my mind.)

If you've ever had a bad boss (and I think everyone has), you know that even at great companies or while doing work you love, a bad boss can ruin everything. Now, imagine that you have no protections against your boss harassing, bullying, or discriminating against you. Now imagine that this person who is not a trained educator can grade you. Now imagine you are concerned about your GPA being in this person's hands, and not only are you worried about your GPA as it appears on your resume for the next year or so-- you are concerned about keeping your scholarships so you can actually graduate. Imagine that. That's the reality for far too many kids.

Some universities are engaging in misguided attempts to give students real-life experience by requiring internships in order for students to graduate. These employers are not beholden to legal protections for employees nor bound by the authority of the educational institutions and as a result, the quality of these internships isn't paid much attention or enforced, with many students unable to risk their ability to graduate or find work in tight-knit industries by reporting bad experiences. It is imperative in my opinion that schools stop requiring internships. I believe paid internships should be encouraged and facilitated by the educational institutions as much as possible, but requiring internships forces many students to take unpaid internships.


Unpaid internships aren't your only option

As previously mentioned, you might think that an unpaid internship is your only option, either because they are the standard in your industry, or because you haven't been able to land a paid internship. The good news is that there are lots of things you can do instead of an unpaid internship that will further your career.

Make stuff. Whether you want to write for TV or work in fashion or build apps or websites, you can spend your summer just making stuff. If you're not going to get paid anyway, you might as well work for yourself. You might not be able to put an internship on your resume, but you can write about your project, add it to your portfolio, and talk about it in interviews down the line. Make stuff that you care about. It might cost you money, but you'll have the flexibility to work paid jobs on the side, and you'll still come out ahead, rather than having spent at least an equivalent amount of money making it work for someone who won't pay you.

Learn a new skill and/or get certified. This might also take a little investment, but it's more tangible than an unpaid internship. Brush up on that foreign language you took in high school and become fluent. Get certified in a coding language or CPR or design program. Or get that driver's license you have been putting off. Or even just learn how to cook and shop well for groceries-- maybe that's not something you can put on your resume, but it's a life skill that will pay off in savings from all those meals out and spoiled produce you've learned to circumvent. Read books about self-improvement or productivity. Be a better (and more employable) you.

Job-shadow. Observerships are great because they're basically everything unpaid internships want to be but generally fail at. They typically don't last very long-- sometimes a few days up to a few weeks. This means that you don't spend your entire summer doing something you're not paid for and aren't contributing to (remember, those things are legally dependent on each other). You just shadow someone at their job, going through their day with them, and they take some extra time to explain what they're doing, why, and answer your questions. You're not expected to "do" anything, and you don't get paid, but you also get to learn what a job is like from someone who has it. Observerships are also a lot less commitment on the part of the shadowee since they don't have to take you on for months.

Do informational interviews. Learn about other jobs and companies by doing shorter interviews. You can do these in person or over the phone or video chat. While they aren't as hands-on as other methods, this can be a really efficient way to learn about many companies while also familiarizing them with you. It's a conversation, a two-way street, and it's great for making connections while also learning.

Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way to do hands-on work with much more fair terms than an unpaid intern. While you're still not getting paid, volunteers work on a voluntary basis. While you may decide to commit to coming in from 9-to-5 to help with accounting or planning, you're still there on a voluntary basis and won't have to worry about poor references if something comes up and you need to adjust. The stakes are lower because while you are helping out, you're not obligated to be there. You can learn and prove tons of transferrable skills like communication, team leadership, event planning, web design, and language skills while also working with an organization you care about. It could be a shelter or food bank or library or museum. Health organizations, political organizations, research organizations-- whatever your passion. Someone can use your skills in a way you can put on your resume, with much better conditions than what an unpaid internship might provide.


You can help fight unpaid internships

So now you know all about why I'm against unpaid internships and what some other options are. But now you might wonder how you can stop unpaid internships from being so prevalent. Here are ways you can help.

Don't take unpaid internships. This is an easy choice for those who can't feasibly do it, so this is really a request for those who can. Don't take an unpaid internship even if you can afford it. We need this entire economy to collapse. Unpaid internships cannot exist if there are no unpaid interns. Do some of the other stuff above instead. I know it can be hard, especially when it seems like unpaid internships are the only options out there, but ask yourself if you really want to contribute to a system that makes it hard for people starting out in their career to be a part of it and survive.

Don't make unpaid internships. If you are an employer, or even an employee at a company considering unpaid interns, fight against having unpaid interns. Interns should be paid for their work because people should be paid for their work. Pay your interns or don't have interns.

Advocate against unpaid internships in your industry. Speak out against unpaid internships. There are much better ways to scout talent early and improve the talent pool. Talk about how they cripple diversity and innovation. Talk about how they are unfair and dangerous to the well-being of the young people. If your alma mater has an internship requirement, talk to professors and administrators about why you are against them. Not to be all "children are the future" about this, but literally, the students of today will be the change-makers of tomorrow. It is absurd to ask students who have little to "invest in themselves" for the industry's benefit when the industry should be investing in them.

Open up your doors. As an employer you can scout and encourage talent in many ways, and most of them involve opening your doors. Take calls from students cold emailing you to learning more about what you do. Do panels or office tours for students. Present case studies at local universities. Hold information sessions. You don't have to be an amazing guide to the world of your work. You just have to be open to helping a couple kids figure some stuff out.

You don't have to agree

I don't pretend to be an expert in all industries. I don't pretend to know about your experiences with unpaid internships. But I do know what I know. I know that I have had internships that I loved and learned from, and internships that I hated and learned from. All of them were paid, and I could do them only because I was paid. The things those internships taught me about the work, and about what I need to succeed as an employee, have made me better at my ("real") job. If I hadn't been able to do those internships paid, I would not have been able to do them at all, and that would have made me poorer-equipped professional.

I do not know a single person who got a job offer through an unpaid internship. I do not know a single person who had an amazing unpaid internship experience. I have heard far too many unpaid intern horror stories. I know students and alumni who helped their school or program abolish internship requirements after having their own terrible unpaid internship experiences ranging from not-really-educational to abusive. I know in some industries, unpaid internships are standard. These industries typically have diversity problems. I know that even on my worst days at my least favorite internship, I still did my best and I still got paid so at least I didn't have to worry about how I was going to afford a dinner (over which to cry).

Sometimes a job is just a job, but what is it if you aren't even getting paid? When people aren't compensated or protected, when fantastic talent is abandoning the industry due to barriers to entry, when you are likely to get offered less to start than someone with no internship experience, who really wins?

Thanks for reading, and I hope I've at least made you think about this issue that affects tons of young people today.

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Floral Meditation 01


This year, I've resolved to buy flowers for myself more for the betterment of my mental health. Not only do flowers brighten a space, but arranging them is really meditative. It's one part art and one part communing with nature. It's an exercise in balancing chaos and creating harmony out of a broad array of colors, textures, and shapes. For me, that makes it a great meditational activity where I can think about how what I'm creating relates back to my life and how I want or need to live it. It might sound pretty out there, but over the next year, I'm planning on sharing my floral meditations with you. Maybe it will help you like it helps me.

For my first arrangement of the year, I wanted to create something joyous and optimistic. I also wanted to make something very me, seeing as how my mantra for the year is "You Know Who You Are." I knew I needed to go pink and yellow-- my signature colors-- for this. I also wanted things with a lot of volume to represent chaos and abundance.



Chaos is a recurring thing for me in all my floral work. Chaos is essential to giving life to an arrangement which can look inorganic and artificial if it's too symmetrical. It's also impossible to make things exactly symmetrical because flowers, as part of nature, just don't grow uniformly. By working with beautiful chaos, I create an outlet for my anxiety, which is deeply rooted in the chaos and uncontrollability of the universe. I work incredibly hard to maintain my personal agency and choice in all things, but you never have full control of your life and in my darkest moments, that is what terrifies me the most. Working with beautiful, physical chaos in a positive way reminds me that chaos is natural and good.

Especially going into the new year, Abundance is a key theme. It might be asking a lot in this new political climate, which is far from business as usual, but I am hoping that whatever comes down the pike, I can create a sense of abundance, which is really about focusing on my priorities more than generating wealth. While I hope to maintain or improve my financial health, I'm also hoping to create spiritual abundance in the form of stronger relationships with loved ones and making more time for joy.


In the starring role, I bought some large yellow Chrysanthemums. They symbolize optimism and in Chinese traditions, they are considered to be one of the most divine and beautiful flowers. I like how joyous and free they look. These anchor my arrangement and represent my desire to celebrate the moments in life that make me the happiest.


Carnations are supporting cast here and play a big role as well. Carnations symbolize love-- less romantic than roses; more tender, I suppose. Pink carnations are heavily entwined with Mother's Day but they carry a general association with sisterhood to me. Sisterhood is what really gets me through life. I don't consider myself to have tons of close friends, but the ones I have, I consider to be my brothers and sisters. I support the heck outta my friends and they support the heck outta me. That's what's going to keep me going this year-- the bad ass people in my life.


The green dianthus is something I've never worked with before. I like adding greenery to my arrangements and this seemed like a fun and interesting choice. There's a Dr. Seuss-iness to the texture that felt like an important addition and the lushness of the green spray brings to mind financial well-being to me. I like how little tendrils make up each dense head. It strikes me as a nice metaphor for the idea that things of great substance can be made up of many much smaller things. I'm trying to keep this in mind with regard to my financial decisions (eating out for lunch adds up quick!) as well as with my desire to create positive change in the world. It's not all about big grand gestures-- it's also about doing good on an everyday level. A fun fact about green dianthus I learned: Despite how totally different it looks, this is actually a kind of carnation.


Baby breath is a flower I used to hate as a kid, but now I love working with it. The things I hated about it have actually become what I like most about it now, which I think speaks to how I've become more emotionally mature. Traditionally, baby breath is a flower that represents undying love-- familial, romantic, and platonic-- as well as innocence, newborn babies, fidelity, and self-discipline. For me personally though, baby breath is my absolute favorite embodiment of chaos. The voluminousness and randomness of the spray seems like a manifestation of chaos. It's a classic gap-filler in arrangements, and I think randomness fills in the gaps between all our choices. Even the way the sprays branch off into these rigid forks sort of remind me of small, seemingly inconsequential decisions ("forks in the road," if you will) and each one ends in a little blossom-- an outcome, some better than others.

I used to hate the randomness and the inconsequentiality of the tiny baby breath blooms and the volume it took in arrangements. It seemed so chaotic and self-indulgent and lazy to take up space with random spray rather than carefully selected flowers. Now I see how that line of thinking was another indicator of my anxiety issues. Not having precise control of something was so abhorrent to me, and little triumphs felt meaningless. The burden of perfection was heavy but it seemed so much more appealing than just accepting and embracing chaos. Now I love baby breath and I work hard to frame chaos as a co-conspirator in my successes and blessings.


Anyway, that's my first floral meditation. I'd love your thoughts on it because I have never done this kind of content before but the idea of doing more really excites me. Also let me know if you have questions on beginning to take up floral arrangement because as with most things I have feelings and thoughts about this.


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Looking Forward at 2017 - Mantra and Goals

The Mantra

2016 was rough and honestly, there were some moments where I would get so debilitatingly sad or angry about how things were going that I'd either feel hopeless or like I should do something stupid in a feeble attempt to feign control over things. But luckily Moana came and saved the day for me, emotionally. This song, which admittedly is a bit spoiler-y if, for some reason, you haven't seen the movie, is what keeps me going in my lowest moments. The film was very much about discovering and honoring who you are-- because the best thing you can be to this world is yourself. No matter how you are hurt, you have to remember who you are and live that. So my phrase/mantra for the year is this:

You know who you are.


Major Goals

While I've done a great job with some of my 2016 goals like getting organized and saving money, I haven't done a great job with others-- most notably getting back on track with Spanish and voluntEARing as many hours as I hoped. This year I'm hoping to set some more manageable goals with concrete progress markers, or that are more reasonable for me to accomplish even if my situation changes. While I think I set a lot of great goals, I don't think I necessarily created good systems to follow through with them. This year I'm hoping I've set better, more manageable goals for my self improvement!

Career
  • I want to be really good at my job. I think I am doing pretty good on this so far, but the nature of my job changes regularly, so I want to continue to be good and do even better at my work. 
  • I want to handle delicate situations better. Especially being pretty young, I don't think I'm as seasoned at handling delicate situations at work as I hope to be. I'm pretty good at handling difficult stuff outside the work environment because I have more experience outside a professional environment than in it.  For all my strengths I think this is going to come with time and reflecting on situations after the fact. 
  • I want to double my wins. I've just completed my first year of being a real, non-intern, professional. I have learned so much along the way and I have the privilege of working with awesome people. I hope I can take all those wins from the past year and use it to double my wins next year.
Mental Health
  • Arrange flowers once a month. Floral arrangement is one of the most calming activities in the world to me. It's a reminder that chaos is both natural and beautiful. As someone with panic disorder it's incredibly healing to work with your hands and just accept that flowers are beautiful and imperfect. Arrangements are least pleasing when they are the most symmetrical. I hope to buy and arrange flowers for myself once a month.
  • Finish a book every other month. I think I'm spending too much time with videos, and I really want to get back to reading novels. I love reading but I think I've been forcing myself to do it in bite-sized increments too much. I want to read more books, and also this will significantly cut down on the amount of guilt piling up on my book shelf...
  • Sing more. I don't currently have a plan for this. I think maybe I'll take singing in the shower back up-- it's taken a back seat since I started listening to podcasts in the shower. (Is it weird that I do that?)
Creativity
  • Draw stuff every week. I dither back and forth on whether I want to be good at drawing, but I definitely think I want to do it more, regardless of improvement. 
  • Keep up with blogging and youtubing. I think I want to put up at least 2 pieces a month on each my blog and my youtube. 
  • Start new video project. I have a video project in the works that a friend and I are thinking of starting this year. It's under wraps for now, but I'm excited for it!
  • Start project with my cousin. I have an upcoming project with my cousin that we are hoping to get off the ground in 2017. We have a lot more planning to do, but I am so looking forward to collaborating with her on something.
Financial
  • Successfully save enough for my upcoming trip to Disneyworld. I'm going on a trip to Disneyworld with some friends in May and I definitely need to make sure I've saved up enough for that. 
  • Put a couple thousand into investments by the end of the year. God, this is such an adult sentence. I hope I put a bunch of money away in some good investments this year. 
  • Plan and save a decent amount for a big trip in 2018 for my 25th birthday. I'm hoping to go on a big trip for my 25th birthday. I rarely travel and I basically never go out of the country so I'm hoping to really do something big. 
Health
  • Take vitamins more regularly. They definitely help me and I've gotten pretty lazy about taking them-- I need to be more diligent about taking all my vitamins. 
  • Pack more lunches. Not only will this save me a lot of money, but it'll also make me healthier. I definitely eat better when I prepare my own food just because I feel a lot more guilty about not having a balanced meal when I prepare it-- whereas I feel guilty about not finishing a convenient and sometimes unhealthy meal that I have paid for. 
  • Find more ways to be active. I am going to the gym less regularly than I used to because it's less convenient and to be honest, more scary than it was in my old neighborhood. I like a cemetery more than your average person but walking by one at night, alone, on mostly deserted streets is terrifying, and that's the only way to get to my gym. I want to make more time for the gym, but I also want to make time/space in my life to be active in other ways. I think there's going to be a lot more at-home solo dance parties in 2017.

What are your goals or visions for 2017?

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A look back at 2016



2016 was a pretty challenging one on a global scale, but there's a lot of good that happened, too! Here's a list of some of the good things that happened in my life this year, in no particular order.

Met Liz, Mia, Nicole, and Dago IRL for the first time. These are some good buddies of mine, but I met them in person for the first time in 2016! All separately, except Nicole and Dago whom I met at the same time. We also all hung out together in Austin.

Went to Texas for the first time. Austin, as mentioned above. We shopped and ate great food and I was only a little bit allergic to the many cats I was among. Also I fell asleep on the stairs one day after staying up late making  Liz and Mia watch Dostana. This lead to probably the most iconic tweet of the year?

Got my first credit card. Maybe a little late at 22, but this was a big deal for me. I'm absolutely terrified of debt, so I was afraid to get a credit card for the longest time.

Moved in with Em, my best friend! We live in Brooklyn and she cooks some AMAZING food for us!

Saw Dear Evan Hansen. GUYS. Go see this. Absolutely amazing. Other entertainment faves: Moana, Zootopia (I saw it for the first time this year), Stranger Things, Black Mirror (esp. San Junipero), Lovesick.

Went to Disneyworld with Emily. Kind of spur of the moment with a splash of "let's get the heck outta reality for a sec." A great trip with my best pal that was very much needed.

Got new glasses from Warby Parker. I haven't had glasses in a long while and I LOVE these new frames.

Started organizing my life through Bullet Journaling. Thanks Mia for getting me into this. Still my fave thing!

Became a great snail mailer. Sending people letters and cards has always been a great comfort for me, but now I'm making more time for it. It's improved my mental health and my relationships!

Raised $500 for Sanctuary for Families with Papel New York! I did a fundraiser for one of my favorite non-profits in NYC and raised $500 with the help of Papel New York, an independent, woman-owned New York paper store in honor of Mother's Day!

Started investing. I'm just a simple jellybean trying to be a good, responsible, independent adult. I invest with Ellevest, a service designed to meet women's specific and unique financial needs.

What were your highlights from 2016?
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15 Things To Get Ready for 2017




New year. New you. New evils on the horizon. New opportunities to seize. It's time to prepare for a new year!

1 - Cull your feeds. Go through your inboxes, your twitter, facebook, instagram, and figure out who you need to kick out. Mute, block, delete, unsubscribe, whatever you need to do. It's good to be challenged, to learn, and to encounter different points of view. It's not good to constantly put yourself in bad situations that will ultimately drain you more than up-level you. If there is some excess baggage in your life right now, this is a good time to get rid of it. This also means removing temptations from your life, whether it's deleting ex-partners or ex-friends who you check up on too often, or just unsubscribing to emails that make it a little too easy to blow your budget.

2 - Figure out what you're fighting for. Not to be all Hamilton about this-- wait, actually, yes. To be Hamilton about EVERYTHING tbh-- it's important to know what you stand for. "If you stand for nothing, Burr, what'll you fall for?" 2016 has been a bunch of awful things coming to a head, and in 2017 you've gotta be more clear than ever not just what you're standing for, but what is so worth fighting for that you'll survive your worst days? Write that shit down.

3 - Make a commitment to self-care. Don't let yourself burn out! You can't do any good for the world if you don't keep your spirit healthy. Carve out time to experience joy and take care of yourself. Sometimes it's hard work-- it's not all bubble baths. Sometimes it means forcing yourself to do laundry so you don't feel guilty and gross. Or cleaning your room even though it seems useless and hopeless so that you don't continue to live in a den of despair. Whatever it is! Me and my best friend made a video about self care after the election that you can check out if you want tips.

4 - Get organized. By being organized you eliminate a lot of stress in your life. Start working on a system that works for you and get your life in order. Get a planner, figure out how to meal plan, read about productivity systems. Get ready to be a better you!

5 - Refresh your closet. Get rid of stuff that doesn't fit and probably won't within the next few months. I like using ThredUp since they can give me some credit for anything they sell and I can have anything they can't sell responsibly recycled-- you can use my referral link to get $10 off your first purchase with them. Put stuff into storage as needed. Figure out what you need to make your wardrobe better for your lifestyle-- even if that means being a little further removed from your dream version of yourself.

6 - Have a good cry. I'm a really emotional person but even so, I sometimes have a hard time crying my deepest, realest cries. For me, I always feel better when I've cried a cry that needs crying. It's very Mean Girls "suck the poison out." The longer I bury a cry, the more I need it and I think I have spent a lot of time being sad this year but too busy to have a good long cry. I'm getting all of 2016's tears out before the new year so I don't start the year with baggage. My secret weapon in my endeavor to cry? Undercover Boss on Netflix.

7 - Clean your house. Do you really want to start the year with your house out of order?

8 - Pay off your debts-- to the absolute best of your ability. There are a lot of traditions that say that starting the year with debts, especially personal debts, is a bad idea. Some say that your debts will multiply, others say that your owing someone else in a new year will lead to you having unpaid debts (a karmic payback for not paying stuff back). Not all debts are immediately payable, and some are designed to be paid back over long periods of time, but if you owe a friend a twenty, or borrowed something that hasn't been returned, handle that business.

9 - Cancel sh*t. What are you cancelling this year? Drama with your parents? Getting too wasted on the weekends? A subscription artisanal tortilla chip service? That project you told yourself you were totally gonna do and never do and now it makes you super guilty? You might have signed up for a lot of stuff in 2016, and now is your chance to cancel. Remove yourself from certain situations. Tell yourself you're not going to fall back into drama-creating habits. It's cancelled.

10 - Make a physical representation of what you want out of this year. One of the things that has drawn out my interest in magic is the creation of physical items to help your brain solidify decisions, hopes, and ideas. Make something that represents what you want this year to be. Lots of people make vision boards, but you can also make a painting, a sculpture, or even a list that you hang on your mirror. When you make a thing it helps your brain commit to what it represents.

11 - Make some financial plans. I try to start with a savings goal, as well as account for any big expenses like vacations at the start of the year. Do you want to move or change careers? Do you have student loans to pay off? Or do you just generally want to start eating in more to save for something nice? At the beginning of the year is a nice chill time to think all of that over.

12 - Take a personal inventory on what you need to change about your lifestyle. I'm not trying to tell you you're living your life wrong, but maybe you could be doing things a little better. Personally, I think I need to start reading novels again to destress and also to get back to doing something I really loved. Most people focus on health and wealth in the New Year, but there are other things too like: are you spending enough time with friends? Are you connecting enough with family? Do you need to learn to do stuff alone like see movies or go to restaurants? What do you think you need to shake up in 2017?

13 - Organize your computer. You've been putting off doing some housekeeping on your computer, but now is the time to get things organized. Empty the trash, delete unnecessary files, make those folders. Clear your inbox. Get it all done!

14 - Write down a list of your 2016 accomplishments. This year hasn't been a complete garbage fire. You've probably done at least a couple cool things. Write them down. Treasure them. Even if it's mostly movie releases you loved.

15 - Think about service. How can you serve your community? How can you take a stand? Consider volunteering, or making room in your budget to donate to causes you care about more regularly. If you don't want the world to be a worse place in 2017, you've gotta commit to fighting for better.

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